While this may sound rather surprising, scoring a second date with a woman you fancy is not as complicated as you think. You simply have to know what you’re doing wrong and correct them as soon as you can.
If you’re still having a tough time getting that somewhat elusive second date with the ladies, you may be making a few mistakes that need to be straightened out in no time at all. Make sure you read on to find out what they possibly are to effectively boost your chances of going out with the woman you really like a second time and so on.
You are not planning a first date properly.
To start things off, you should get all the details of a first date right down to pat if you are aiming to make it as successful as possible and score a second one with ease. Asking her to a poorly planned date will only lead to disaster. Apart from giving her the notion that you are simply cutting corners, she’ll also think that you’re not giving her the time and effort that she deserves. Thus, giving her already a mental note not to go out with you again.
You are coming on too strong.
Getting overly romantic on a first date is one of the biggest mistakes that you will ever make. Unlike what most guys think, a first date is supposed to be a venue to establish friendship with a woman you like. It’s not something that already gives you the green light to go on full Casanova mode on your date as soon as you meet her. Make it a point to keep it friendly or you won’t see her again.
You are not showing enough self-confidence.
Women just hate guys who act all wimpy. Although it’s understandable that first dates can be somewhat nerve-wracking even for the most seasoned bachelors, knowing how to demonstrate the right amount of confidence is key to convince her that you are worthy of a second date. Sure you may think that confidence does not come naturally to most men but practicing to show it as much as you can is a great way to “trick” yourself into being more self-assured.
You are not listening to her intently.
Having great listening skills is an attribute that majority of women find really attractive. Always keep in mind to listen to what your date has to say when she is opening up to you. Besides giving you a lot of valuable information you can use to actively engage her in conversation, you will also make her feel that she can tell you almost anything, which can easily translate to getting that second date in the bag without a hitch.
You are not relaxing enough.
Relaxing during a first date is a must if you’d like to take out a woman you like a second time. Getting too anxious while at it won’t just make you speak and act in a rather weird way but also make her want to be somewhere else fast. Chances are she is also a bit nervous so put your best foot forward and show her a first date that she will never forget – in a positive way, of course.
Claire is writing on behalf of Couplesadvice.com, a blog on dating, marriage and dating.