Getting a divorce is one of the most challenging things we can face, even when things are relatively amicable. Emotions are running high, and there are lots of serious issues to be dealt with that will impact your life for many years down the line or even permanently. At this point in time, it would behoove you to do a bit of homework, and familiarize yourself with common issues that complicate the process in hopes you can steer clear of them yourself.
Rushing Through the Process
Whenever we are dealing with an unpleasant situation, we naturally have the desire to get it over with as quickly as possible. It is understandable you want this whole divorce mess over with sooner than later, but could lead to lots of problems down the line. Talk things over with your lawyer to get an idea of the best course of action, legally and financially.
Assuming Your Spouse Will Be Fair and Cooperative
Unless your relationship was extremely acrimonious for a while, which is often not the case in many divorces, it is easy to assume your spouse will be fair and cooperative during the proceedings. You may not be seeking to destroy your former spouse, so you would not expect him or her to act in any way that seems underhanded, unfair and the like.
But, this line of thinking can really do a number on you if things do take a bit of a nasty turn. The right frame of mind during divorce is essential to maintaining your well-being, and getting through the process more easily. You are probably most concerned about yourself, and you should expect your spouse is looking out for number one also.
Letting Emotion Overtake Logic
This is a tough time emotionally speaking, and it is understandable you may feel a bit (or a lot) distraught and out-of-sorts. But, it is crucial you don’t let your feelings override logic during your divorce. This can lead to all sorts of issues, such as wasted time, money and energy fighting for things that really aren’t really important just to get revenge. Being highly emotional will undermine your case at every turn.
Avoiding Alternative Dispute Resolution
Fighting it out in court is not the only way to settle a divorce. There are other options available that aim to help you settle your differences in a more amicable fashion, such as arbitration, mediation and collaborative divorce. These alternatives may or may not produce satisfactory results for you, but it is worth it to at least give them a shot. It could save a lot of time, money and emotional energy.
Not Checking Documents for Accuracy
There is the assumption that all legal documentation will be correct — after all, how could mistakes be made when such important matters are concerned. But mistakes can happen anywhere and at any time, and failure to review documents to make sure facts and figures are correct can have serious consequences. Mistakes could take a long time to fix, or may not be able to be fixed at all, compromising your desired outcome.